♓ - Pisces

Pisces - The 12th of the Zodiac

Colour - Sea Greens

Keywords - Sensitive, Vulnerable, Empathetic

Element - Water (Emotional)

Quality - Mutable (Adaptable)

Polarity - Negative (Absorb and Embrace)

Ruler - Neptune(The Energy of the Mysterious/How We Inspire)

+ Jupiter(The Energy of Generosity/How We Expand)

Goal - Setting Boundaries

Motivational Quote - We often suffer more in imagination than reality

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Hello there, friend.

I won't take up much of your time.

We often lose ourselves on the way to ensure others are okay. If a tree is healthy, it produces good fruit to those around it. So too, should we be. Aware of our own needs and desires because only then can we take care of others. And this is easier said than done, I promise. This world is difficult to navigate.

I won't speak for you, I merely would like to make a suggestion. Let's use the example of setting boundaries. I'm sure at least once in your life, fleeting or constant, you've felt betrayed by friends or family. You promised yourself to never be hurt again. But... That's not that easy, is it? All of us are social creatures, even introverts. I'm sorry, I don't mean to assume. I merely want to suggest another way.

The heart gets hurt easily. And our emotions can be toyed with. Especially me, I feel things very deeply. I'm empathetic in ways you could never imagine. And because of all the intense feelings, I can get carried away. Especially around people who seem to be in need of help. So, what I do. Before I make a decision, I touch my necklace. And I ask myself: "Is this right? Is this really a good decision?" I take this brief moment to think about it. Because, I sometimes only need a few moments. I suggest you do the same. It's really easy. Choose something(jewlery, clothes or even a rubber band). Make it a habit, before you make a decision, touch it and ask yourself: "Is this really okay with me? Is this what I want too?"

This is a technique that NLP practitioners use to remind us about something. Especially in social settings, where I get easily swept up by the pain of others. I try to distance myself, but before I know it, I've already felt the pain this person has to deal with. This is why, it's such a useful tool. I struggle a lot to say "No", especially outright. So, I've started to say: "I'm sorry, I already have something important planned." This way, I can remind myself that my feelings are important. Not more important than theirs, because I am not egotistical. But, we are all equal in the eyes of Mother Nature and Father Time. So, my feelings are valid too.

And remember,

You're going to fall, you're going to fail, you're going to disappoint people. It's natural, it's human, it's life. People push you to the point where you allow it. And, a very sad unfortunate truth I've had to face: (and I've cried so many times after I made this realization) I have to take matters into my own hands. I had to stop waiting for my partner to stand up for me. Often times, I was alone when I lost my sense of boundaries. I had to take control of my own life. I've had to start living for me, because only then, can I live for the ones I love.

And in the end, people started to respect me too. And I finally felt a little bit proud of myself. I noticed that when I have boundaries, others are more comfortable around me too.

All in all, have fun. And Remember; stay weird because we need a little difference in our social environment. Stay curious, for this drives us forward. And stay humble, because we are all part of the circle of life.

Lots of love

Picses